Hi friends!
Building self-confidence can help you achieve your goals, network in your career and enjoy strong relationships. It will open the door to professional and personal success, too. Though self-confidence does not come naturally to everyone but the good news is that it is possible to gain self-confidence. Here’s what to do.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF
Every communication starts from within you. Some people have low estimation of themselves and that’s why they keep falling short of their targets. When you dwell on negative thoughts, you become weak and unable to take actions that lead to your goals.
Some people dwell too much on what they lack so much so that they don’t even appreciate what they have. Have you noticed that non-contented people mostly lack confidence?
Rather, self-confident people do what is called “positive self-talk.” Here, you replace your negative thoughts with positive ones like – “people love me and are willing to meet with me;” “I am beautiful;” “God loves me and wants me to succeed;” “I shall succeed;” “people will listen to me when I talk,” “the world is waiting for my success.”
For best results, you will say these positive self-talks after your morning prayers.
What other negative thoughts have you noticed? Replace them with positive self-talk today and see what instant change occurs in your mood.
PREPARE
Have you noticed how confident you become about your examination once you have prepared for it? Well, same goes for every other thing. It will surprise you how a little bit of preparation adds so much to your confidence.
Preparation does not have to be elaborate. It entails knowing what to expect and what to do at a particular occasion.
What do you want to do? Give a speech, go for an interview, dance in public, lead the choir, preach in a Christian gathering, etc? Then learn a little bit about it everyday!
TAKE ACTION
You will never learn to swim unless you enter the water. Isn’t that plain common sense? But you’ll be amazed at how many people are just content at being at the poolside and waving to the people that swim when they themselves should have been swimming champions!
Forget about the big steps for mow. Take small steps each day that adds a little more confidence to you. Remember, repetition is the mother of learning. The more action you take, the more confident you become. This is the ultimate secret of champions!
Are you going to give a speech, preach or lead the choir or dance in public? Don’t go to the big stage yet. Practice in front of your mirror or friend then in a small gathering, probably of familiar people. As you gain more confidence, you can now go out and rule the world.
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK
It’s ok to aim at perfection but it is also ok to make mistakes. Don’t be obsessed about being perfect because nobody is.
Can you imagine a building that is never fully completed? Well, that’s a confident person. He is always under construction. He knows he is not a perfect person. He knows once in a while he is bound to make mistakes but he also sees such mistakes as opportunities to learn something new and grow better.
The truth is people are always thinking about themselves and can’t spare enough time to dwell on your mistake so they mostly forget the mistakes as soon as you make them.
Don’t worry if you make mistakes but be sure to learn from them. Remember, you are under construction.
LET GO OF ALL THAT MAKE YOU STOP
Fear is the most demobilizing force on your path to gaining self-confidence. Everyone has fears but self-confident people have learnt to kill their fears. They learnt to move ahead despite their fears.
The secret is this – what you fear to do is exactly what you should be doing. Action is the antidote to fear. Once you take a little action, you will realize that fear is the easiest thing to scare away because it just disappears.
If you feel less confident about your dressing, improve it. If it’s your hairstyle, make a new one. If it’s you thoughts, change over to positive and empowering ones. If your friend distract from your self-confidence, move way from him.
Fears are reminders of what we should be doing. It lies within your power to move ahead despite them.
BONUS
Didn’t we say 5 ways to boost your self-confidence? Well, here is a bonus. Smile. That’s right. Smile. Smiling has a way of making us relax, boosting our confidence and attracting people to us. So, remember to smile always.
So there you have them – 5 plus 1 ways to boost your confidence. It’s only the knowledge that is acted upon that empowers.
You shall excel!
Building self-confidence can help you achieve your goals, network in your career and enjoy strong relationships. It will open the door to professional and personal success, too. Though self-confidence does not come naturally to everyone but the good news is that it is possible to gain self-confidence. Here’s what to do.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF
Every communication starts from within you. Some people have low estimation of themselves and that’s why they keep falling short of their targets. When you dwell on negative thoughts, you become weak and unable to take actions that lead to your goals.
Some people dwell too much on what they lack so much so that they don’t even appreciate what they have. Have you noticed that non-contented people mostly lack confidence?
Rather, self-confident people do what is called “positive self-talk.” Here, you replace your negative thoughts with positive ones like – “people love me and are willing to meet with me;” “I am beautiful;” “God loves me and wants me to succeed;” “I shall succeed;” “people will listen to me when I talk,” “the world is waiting for my success.”
For best results, you will say these positive self-talks after your morning prayers.
What other negative thoughts have you noticed? Replace them with positive self-talk today and see what instant change occurs in your mood.
PREPARE
Have you noticed how confident you become about your examination once you have prepared for it? Well, same goes for every other thing. It will surprise you how a little bit of preparation adds so much to your confidence.
Preparation does not have to be elaborate. It entails knowing what to expect and what to do at a particular occasion.
What do you want to do? Give a speech, go for an interview, dance in public, lead the choir, preach in a Christian gathering, etc? Then learn a little bit about it everyday!
TAKE ACTION
You will never learn to swim unless you enter the water. Isn’t that plain common sense? But you’ll be amazed at how many people are just content at being at the poolside and waving to the people that swim when they themselves should have been swimming champions!
Forget about the big steps for mow. Take small steps each day that adds a little more confidence to you. Remember, repetition is the mother of learning. The more action you take, the more confident you become. This is the ultimate secret of champions!
Are you going to give a speech, preach or lead the choir or dance in public? Don’t go to the big stage yet. Practice in front of your mirror or friend then in a small gathering, probably of familiar people. As you gain more confidence, you can now go out and rule the world.
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK
It’s ok to aim at perfection but it is also ok to make mistakes. Don’t be obsessed about being perfect because nobody is.
Can you imagine a building that is never fully completed? Well, that’s a confident person. He is always under construction. He knows he is not a perfect person. He knows once in a while he is bound to make mistakes but he also sees such mistakes as opportunities to learn something new and grow better.
The truth is people are always thinking about themselves and can’t spare enough time to dwell on your mistake so they mostly forget the mistakes as soon as you make them.
Don’t worry if you make mistakes but be sure to learn from them. Remember, you are under construction.
LET GO OF ALL THAT MAKE YOU STOP
Fear is the most demobilizing force on your path to gaining self-confidence. Everyone has fears but self-confident people have learnt to kill their fears. They learnt to move ahead despite their fears.
The secret is this – what you fear to do is exactly what you should be doing. Action is the antidote to fear. Once you take a little action, you will realize that fear is the easiest thing to scare away because it just disappears.
If you feel less confident about your dressing, improve it. If it’s your hairstyle, make a new one. If it’s you thoughts, change over to positive and empowering ones. If your friend distract from your self-confidence, move way from him.
Fears are reminders of what we should be doing. It lies within your power to move ahead despite them.
BONUS
Didn’t we say 5 ways to boost your self-confidence? Well, here is a bonus. Smile. That’s right. Smile. Smiling has a way of making us relax, boosting our confidence and attracting people to us. So, remember to smile always.
So there you have them – 5 plus 1 ways to boost your confidence. It’s only the knowledge that is acted upon that empowers.
You shall excel!
4 comments:
Whaoh! Where had this been all this while? This article got me back to my feet. Can I get some ideas on how to excel at work? Cheers
Hi, Bukola. Good to know you were able to take something away from the article. Even I still learn from these articles you know!
Would you really like to excel at work? Well, there are several secrets to it and I will be sharing those come next week. Hope you'll come around then.
The article is great! I love the Take Action Part......you know many people dream and never wake up to Go activate thier dreams. I like that...Keep it up...I love ur blog
Thanks for your comment, Laolu. It's very encouraging. Hope to see you around some other time.
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